The Case Against Time-out
For generations, parents have sought a reliable and reliable way to handle children’s behaviors. The discipline of the latest technology and the most popular is dead time. Although time-out is greater than spanking, it is not an appropriate way for parents to cope with their children’s misbehavior. In addition, the use of downtime can create subsequent child behavior problems. These problems can affect the well-being of the child and seriously damage the relationship between parents and children.
Child Behavior – Symptom
Children’s behavior has a legitimate cause. Behavior of children is determined primarily by the way children feel about the current state of their physical and psychosocial needs. Needs are strong in all children, and children are naturally sensitive to their needs. If one or more of your needs are not met, children soon feel uncomfortable.
Children will cry when they feel uncomfortable. A crying baby or a frustrating child’s ad. These screams have evolved as a survival mechanism. They attract the attention of the parents. The purpose of art is to get the type and quality of love and care of parents adequately address unmet needs and, therefore, establish the sense of security in children. The bad behavior of older children and teens is a cry for help announcing that their needs are frustrated.
The screams and bad behavior of children and adolescents are somehow very similar to a sore throat, stuffy nose, muscle pain or fever. All are symptoms. All have causes. A doctor knows that when the virus or bacteria causing physical symptoms are eliminated, harmful feelings will be stifled. Similarly, when parents correctly diagnose and provide remedies that address the needs of children and adolescents, symptoms of crying or misbehavior also disappear.
The frustration of important needs does not feel good at any age. However, children can become very angry and demanding when their needs are not met. Its intense outbursts often come in part from its dependent nature. Unlike most adults, young children do not have the ability to meet their own needs. They are physically unable to do most of the personal care tasks. By nature, they also have strong emotional needs and vulnerabilities. On the other hand, unlike most adults, young children are not able to tolerate frustration well. In addition, infants, toddlers and preschoolers many are not able to identify the frustrating needs that aggravate. This makes it impossible for most young children who tell their parents what bothers them and that they are often unable to meet their needs independently.
When the waiting time is used, parents firmly demand for the first time that their child continues to deform and remain silent. The child is usually forced to go sit in a room alone, away from the parents, and be warned not to leave the room until they are sure to be able to control their behavior. Being placed in wasted time stretches the time a child must endure the frustrated need that caused their misbehavior. Therefore, normal unmet needs become increasingly uncomfortable as time-continuous. Young children depend on the ones they want to be with, the love and need of their parents.
Exacerbating this increasingly uncomfortable state that they feel frustrated is that the child is alone, away parents whom they must trust to meet their needs. This forced separation from its basic source of comfort, safety and well-being greatly increased the misfortune of a child. On the other hand, being alone in the lost time can create additional disturbing feelings that the child must endure. Painful emotions such as fear and anxiety often develop. A frustrated child who must sit quietly and alone in wasted time often gets angry. Although the youngster does not dare to express anger in dead time, the child often expresses himself by becoming angry and defiant sometime after being released from waiting time. The practice of separating a child from the parents’ own change may be the cause of future misconduct, because being alone and wasting time increases the frustration of a child who is already frustrated.